So, something that I have heard and also seen people talking about a lot lately is how many people are feeling fed up with spirituality, the spiritual world, and how healing seems to be taking over for a lot of people so they are quitting to ’protest’.
And I might have a very unpopular opinion, but I don’t agree.
Because if you think that when you start your healing journey, that’s all you need to focus on, then I think you might have misunderstood the journey of healing.
In my opinion, inner healing can be part of your life, but it should not ever take over your life.
It means that you can start your healing journey. You can start doing shadow work. Inner child healing, generational trauma healing etc.
You can start looking into where there are parts of you that still feel wounded or where you are still carrying hurt. You can address those things when you’re ready.
And then you can put it away and go on and live your life.
Starting your healing journey doesn’t mean that you need to constantly accomplish something, finish something, or eventually become completely “healed.” Because if that becomes the goal, you can end up consuming your whole life with healing and forget to actually be present and live it.
So, when I hear and see all the conflict online right now about people taking a break from being spiritual, I honestly think that’s probably what most people would naturally do anyway.
Life is about living, right?
And I think that’s where people sometimes get it wrong. We are allowed to have our human experiences. And can still be spiritual. And can still work on ourself.
In my way of teaching and interacting with my clients, I always approach healing through integration, because I find integration to be one of the biggest parts of your healing journey.
And integration means that you go and live your life.
You listen to your body. Become aware.
You don’t need to sit and do shadow work every single day while kind of passing everything else around you.
No. That’s not what healing is about.
You don’t have to go and do energy healing every week, constantly trying to find new patterns, new wounds, or new trauma to heal, while not doing anything else with your life.
No. That’s not what healing is about either.
And you don’t have to constantly vibe high or have a high frequency, because not everything in your life is high frequency.
Life isn’t always high frequency.
But if your goal is to change, and if your goal is to grow and create changes within yourself, then a big part of inner healing and your healing journey is acknowledgement.
And this is what I think a lot of people get wrong.
Because if you acknowledge something, you become aware of it.
And self-awareness, together with awareness of what is happening around you, is probably one of your biggest tools.
The point is to learn how to use awareness, self-awareness, and even your awakening as a tool, not as a rule for how you have to live your life.
So, when I see this discussion online and people being like, “F this, I’m done spiritually and healing. I’m not going to keep doing healing because I’m fed up with it all,” maybe because they have experienced inauthentic people, lies, spiritual bypassing, or other things within the spiritual world…
I don’t think the answer is to focus on all of that.
I think we need to focus on how to integrate healing into our own lives. Integrate spiritual & holistic healing to our human experience.
Because this is your life.
This is how you live.
This is your body, your vessel.
Its your energy, your soul.
And this is how you can acknowledge and become aware of where you’re still hurt and how you can integrate that awareness into your own life.
Having trauma, shadow work, or healing to do does not mean that you need to stop living your life.
I would actually say the opposite.
You need to live your life to learn how to integrate everything you are healing and working through.
You need to live your life to notice and acknowledge what still have a negative impact on you, what triggers you, and what needs your attention.
Sometimes this means putting yourself into a reflection phase.
Reflecting on questions like:
What is toxic in my life?
How can I change it?
Where do I start?
And usually, you start with yourself and what is happening within you.
And if changing something within yourself isn’t enough or isn’t possible, you can also choose to remove yourself from situations, work, or people that are toxic for you and your healing journey.
Noticing and becoming aware is part of how you integrate healing into your life.
Because you need to live your life to know where and what you need to acknowledge.
You cannot expect to change other people.
That’s not the point of inner healing.
Inner healing is about yourself.
Thats your only responsibility!
How you can be honest and authentic to yourself.
How you can respond and react differently to things that used to hurt you or trigger you.
And that’s how you integrate healing into your own life and work through your own path.
Not by comparing your journey to anybody else’s.
Not by trying to avoid life.
But by being in it and learning how to integrate everything with your life.
What I see a lot of people being upset about is how everything in content seems to be about:
Heal this.
Do this.
Inner child work.
Inner healing.
Frequency work.
Energy healing.
Shadow work.
Yada, yada, yada.
And of course, this is my work. This is my profession. I work with clients every day, so of course I’m going to promote and talk about the work that I do.
But I’m not promoting bypassing.
I’m not promoting skipping your life just to constantly heal, vibe high, or become this perfect “high-frequency” person.
Personally, as a professional, I share to give knowledge and to share my own experiences.
But if you find yourself getting triggered by constantly seeing healing content or advertising around healing, and you are thinking about quitting the healing spirituality.
I think it’s important to understand how to integrate it into your own life instead.
Because you don’t have to do everything.
You don’t have to constantly heal.
You don’t have to constantly work on yourself.
You are allowed to live.
And I think that’s really what this post is about.
Integration.
How to integrate your journey with your life.
That’s how you manage it.
That’s how you understand that you can still go out and have a night out.
You can have a drink with your friends.
You can listen to music that isn’t “high-frequency music.”
And you’re still a spiritual person.
You’re still on your journey.
It’s all part of it.
You can even be in situations that you know are toxic and still acknowledge:
“This is toxic, but at least I’m aware of it and can work on that”
And you can become aware of how and when you are ready to remove yourself from it or change something.
Healing doesn’t mean stopping your life.
Healing is learning how to live your life differently.
With more awareness.
More acknowledgement.
And the ability to integrate what you learn about yourself into the life you are actually living.
I hope you understand what I mean with this post, and if you have any thoughts or opinions, I would absolutely love to hear yours.
Lots of love, as always,
Kajsa